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Post by John on Jan 28, 2019 15:33:47 GMT -5
I was thinking about something sister Candance said about 80 percent of women in western societies being mentally unstable, which at first seemed high, but I could probably say that about our whole society. Much of this is the result of parents not preparing their children for life as an adult. Boys are not taught about the need for a good job and to be financial stability before getting married, and girls are not taught how to be a good housewife and Mother. Boys are allowed to do nothing for themselves the whole time they are in school, as are girls, so the are used to their parents doing everything for them. Boys aren't used to working and girls know nothing about cooking and cleaning and raising children. Both are taught to be selfish and not anything about working as a team in marriage. Much of it has to do with getting away from the Bible, but in times past, even sinners would train up their children better. Then you go from one disfunctional family raising children after another, and the cycle repeats itself and things get worse. I am not sure it is mental illness so much as lack of training for real life. It is a real problem. You will have people in their 30s who are mentally like teenagers.
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Post by PG4Him on Jan 28, 2019 16:15:02 GMT -5
I am out driving right now but will write more substance about this later this evening. Something doesn’t stop being crazy just because it’s been normalized. When everyone in a community is a psychopath, it doesn’t mean psychopaths no longer exist…
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Post by PG4Him on Jan 28, 2019 19:53:31 GMT -5
When I talk about these issues, I hope people understand that I’m not trying to be a negative ninny. I don’t just want to make women feel bad. If a doctor knows there’s a bad disease becoming an epidemic, he has to sound the alarm, even if it’s unpleasant. No matter how innocent an infected person may be, infection is infection. A fish in water doesn’t realize he’s wet. We’ve got to wake up the fish that they’re swimming in water before we can show them the biblical alternative. I don’t mean this toward anyone here, but out in general society, not many people fully appreciate the crisis we’re in. First, I mentioned in the other thread that most (women) in Western society are functionally unstable. Let me explain that a formal mental illness isn’t needed to make someone unstable. I’ve lived in a lot of states, worked a lot of jobs, and have had my share of female bosses/coworkers/friends/neighbors. Almost all of them — I’m serious when I say this — almost all were unstable in one way or another. They were inconsistent, unpredictable, moody, and double-minded. They were very lackadaisal in enforcing rules on thier children, then they yelled at a child unfairly when they had enough. One day they said they’re breaking up with a guy, the next day they were kissing him on a date. They seemed to make daily decisions based on what they felt at the time. Female bosses were the worst because they changed company rules/policies sometimes on a daily basis. I had a boss one time who was probably bipolar. One day she was passing out bonuses, the next thing we knew she was delaying paychecks. I’ve seen it too many times in too many cities for it not to be a pattern. Now I have a man who is the editor over me at my job, and we’ve never had one single conflict. I’ve heard multiple people other than myself who said they would rather work for a male supervisor because female bosses tend to be unstable. I’ve heard it too many times from too many different sources. On the topic of mental illness. Here are some statistics for you to consider... 1/6 of Americans take psychotropic drugs. That means every time you pass six people in a store, one of them is on a prescription for depression/anxiety/something. www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/one-6-americans-take-antidepressants-other-psychiatric-drugs-n69514130% of college students have narcissistic personality tendencies. www.nytimes.com/2016/02/14/opinion/narcissism-is-increasing-so-youre-not-so-special.htmlThe majority of Americans say it’s morally okay to lie about a story and make it more interesting. A third of us think it’s morally okay to lie to get a child out of trouble. www.deseretnews.com/article/900014035/americans-are-increasingly-comfortable-with-many-white-lies-new-poll-reveals.htmlMillions of Americans at this very moment have a weak or nonexistent conscience, show clinical symptoms of personality disorders, and rely on medicaton to keep them in the workforce. |
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Post by John on Jan 28, 2019 20:16:43 GMT -5
The most unstable bosses I ever had were women, but at the same time, the worst people I worked for were men. I have worked for a couple of men that were so bad, I nearly quit my job because of them. The men were not unstable as much as just bad bosses. My current dispatcher is a woman, and she has been good to work for, but in this case, she is a Christian. That likely plays into it.
Do you suppose that it is possible that female bosses are often times worse to women that work under them than men? I am only wondering because for the most part, I have had little trouble working with women. At the same time, the sample size is smaller, as I have had more male bosses.
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Post by PG4Him on Jan 28, 2019 20:53:03 GMT -5
Men have told me in confidence that they often struggle with female bosses. It’s amazing what men will tell you when they find out you’re one of the “good” ones. There are some good ones out there, don’t get me wrong, and I’m sure it makes a difference to be a Bible believer.
Men are incompetent, women are unstable. That’s the national trend.
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Post by John on Jan 28, 2019 21:10:08 GMT -5
Men have told me in confidence that they often struggle with female bosses. It’s amazing what men will tell you when they find out you’re one of the “good” ones. There are some good ones out there, don’t get me wrong, and I’m sure it makes a difference to be a Bible believer. Men are incompetent, women are unstable. That’s the national trend.
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Post by 4hizglory37 on Jan 29, 2019 0:06:34 GMT -5
When I talk about these issues, I hope people understand that I’m not trying to be a negative ninny. I don’t just want to make women feel bad. If a doctor knows there’s a bad disease becoming an epidemic, he has to sound the alarm, even if it’s unpleasant. No matter how innocent an infected person may be, infection is infection. A fish in water doesn’t realize he’s wet. We’ve got to wake up the fish that they’re swimming in water before we can show them the biblical alternative. I don’t mean this toward anyone here, but out in general society, not many people fully appreciate the crisis we’re in. First, I mentioned in the other thread that most (women) in Western society are functionally unstable. Let me explain that a formal mental illness isn’t needed to make someone unstable. I’ve lived in a lot of states, worked a lot of jobs, and have had my share of female bosses/coworkers/friends/neighbors. Almost all of them — I’m serious when I say this — almost all were unstable in one way or another. They were inconsistent, unpredictable, moody, and double-minded. They were very lackadaisal in enforcing rules on thier children, then they yelled at a child unfairly when they had enough. One day they said they’re breaking up with a guy, the next day they were kissing him on a date. They seemed to make daily decisions based on what they felt at the time. Female bosses were the worst because they changed company rules/policies sometimes on a daily basis. I had a boss one time who was probably bipolar. One day she was passing out bonuses, the next thing we knew she was delaying paychecks. I’ve seen it too many times in too many cities for it not to be a pattern. Now I have a man who is the editor over me at my job, and we’ve never had one single conflict. I’ve heard multiple people other than myself who said they would rather work for a male supervisor because female bosses tend to be unstable. I’ve heard it too many times from too many different sources. On the topic of mental illness. Here are some statistics for you to consider... 1/6 of Americans take psychotropic drugs. That means every time you pass six people in a store, one of them is on a prescription for depression/anxiety/something. www.nbcnews.com/health/health-news/one-6-americans-take-antidepressants-other-psychiatric-drugs-n69514130% of college students have narcissistic personality tendencies. www.nytimes.com/2016/02/14/opinion/narcissism-is-increasing-so-youre-not-so-special.htmlThe majority of Americans say it’s morally okay to lie about a story and make it more interesting. A third of us think it’s morally okay to lie to get a child out of trouble. www.deseretnews.com/article/900014035/americans-are-increasingly-comfortable-with-many-white-lies-new-poll-reveals.htmlMillions of Americans at this very moment have a weak or nonexistent conscience, show clinical symptoms of personality disorders, and rely on medicaton to keep them in the workforce. If those statistics are true, that is very disturbing to say the least. But I would venture to say that most won't even realize that about themselves. Just like that saying, incompetent people don't realize they are incompetent. |
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Post by PG4Him on Jan 29, 2019 10:48:52 GMT -5
Like I mentioned above, this stuff has been normalized in society. We see behaviors around us all the time (from both genders) that are actually clinical symptoms, but we shrug it off as typical behavior.
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Post by frienduff on Jan 29, 2019 11:34:11 GMT -5
I remind us all about who is unstable . THE DOUBLE MINDED ONE is unstable in all their ways . THAT Number just popped up to higher than eighty percent
if we count the whole world , heck I bet its higher than even eighty percent in churches alone .
Specially churches in western societies . A double minded man is unstable in all his ways .
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2019 15:18:18 GMT -5
I am unstable.
But I know the birds and the bees from the Bible.
The Scriptures are good to make wise the simple.
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Post by Cletus on Mar 3, 2019 0:37:48 GMT -5
speaking about normalized in society...
well just give those kids a participation trophy... they dont need to learn they have to work hard to win or get a reward... oh no... they showed up they are champions too!
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Post by PG4Him on Mar 3, 2019 12:52:05 GMT -5
There are two sides to the trophy thing. When I was in grade school, I hated being dragged off to activities where I knew I’d never win. Kids who don’t want to be there shouldn’t have to be there wasting time and getting nothing to show for it.
Then we’d go to class, where I knew the material well enough to get an A on the test. Other kids (usually athletes) were given extra consideration for their “class participation” so they need not get an A on the test. It was the same concept. Teachers did it for them in class, but no one did it for me on field day.
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Post by John on Mar 3, 2019 13:08:23 GMT -5
There are two sides to the trophy thing. When I was in grade school, I hated being dragged off to activities where I knew I’d never win. Kids who don’t want to be there shouldn’t have to be there wasting time and getting nothing to show for it. Then we’d go to class, where I knew the material well enough to get an A on the test. Other kids (usually athletes) were given extra consideration for their “class participation” so they need not get an A on the test. It was the same concept. Teachers did it for them in class, but no one did it for me on field day.
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Post by Cletus on Mar 3, 2019 15:47:45 GMT -5
There are two sides to the trophy thing. When I was in grade school, I hated being dragged off to activities where I knew I’d never win. Kids who don’t want to be there shouldn’t have to be there wasting time and getting nothing to show for it. Then we’d go to class, where I knew the material well enough to get an A on the test. Other kids (usually athletes) were given extra consideration for their “class participation” so they need not get an A on the test. It was the same concept. Teachers did it for them in class, but no one did it for me on field day. the point i was getting to is whats being taught to the children these days... its not reality, not the real world. its normalized in society so much that children are taught even young the rules can be bent for you... many of those kids will grow up and find thats just life because everything will be handed to them and they will teach their kids the same, others will find out its not how it is at all. it seems like you found this out early on.
but the kicker is what you said about kids who dont want... those that do, or think they do learn they get the same thing in the end, and those that win see they got the same thing too. what have they learned from trying hard and practicing? children are not taught to work hard or apply yourself anymore, to push harder to succeed. and adults are the ones teaching children this.
and its not necessarily field day at school, but also little leagues. its everywhere. you cant shelter kids from life... when they are disappointed they lost and they want to participate they should be encouraged to work at it and get better and we as parents should give them the time and opportunity to do so. i tell my kids once on something... its hot. they still want to touch it and its not going to seriously burn them as in immediate blistering... well they learn dont touch it when daddy says its hot. a friend of mine when he went to pierce his daughters ears he numbed the first ear... the second ear he let her feel it. she lived. it was actually comical how she reacted. but now she wont go try to go pierce her ears when she gets a hold of a needle or something else because she knows it hurts. she knows.
its not for adults/parents to shelter children from the reality of this world, maybe to a point say things like sex when they are real young, but it up to us to prepare them for life and the world. no doubt it hurts to see our little ones sad but time flies fast and they will be grown faster than we want them to be. children are not being raised up right anymore so we have a whole generation who we have threads about here... and the bible talks about a whole generation too.
there is a way that seems right to a man... but when our societies moral compass is off...
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Post by John on Mar 3, 2019 16:02:35 GMT -5
I agree Cletus. Playing games where you don't keep score and there are no winners or losers isn't preparing kids for real life, and is also boring. Winning makes you want to work hard to stay on top, and losing makes you want to try harder.
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