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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 19:15:24 GMT -5
If someone wants to hide behind Scriptures and judge me from the safety of their keyboard, they certainly have that freedom. At least I don't hide behind false piety. I can be honest. I like men. I like me more. I like Jesus the best. Whether I seek a new husband or not is not the issue. Anyone who can't see my value --- it's not really my problem. It's their loss. I wish you would open your eyes and see that it is because we value you and care about you that we are telling you the truth. We all have times when we are disappointed with life and feel we've been shortchanged. It doesn't give license to go outside God's commands to find what we think will make us happy. Happiness and joy are found in God... not an outside source, and not our circumstances. If I looked at my circumstances, I could find plenty to be discouraged about. But I have to choose to look up and into the face of my Lord. It's not about false piety, sis ... it's about relationship ... I would not survive the situation I'm in if I didn't choose to keep looking to Him. I wish you would not address me for a while. Your posts make me uncomfortable. So please, just ignore my posts.
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Post by John on Mar 15, 2019 20:26:37 GMT -5
I believe someone else besides my current husband is waiting for me. So let it be. In Jesus' name This is where you need to be careful. Why are you believing this? I would counsel you to simply seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and trust that God will meet your needs. It may be the will of the Lord to restore your current marriage. Don't close that door. It could be that your husband could hook up with another woman and you may be free because he commits adultery or something could happen to him, and you may wind up with someone else. It may be the will of the Lord you remain single. The point is, if you want true peace, and to be in the will of the Lord, don't seek any particular outcome in this matter. Seek God first, and see where He takes you. I know He will never lead you to commit sin, so whatever happens, if you are being led by the Holy Spirit, you will not do things contrary to the Bible.
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Post by Abby-Joy on Mar 15, 2019 20:27:42 GMT -5
Ask the Lord why my posts make you uncomfortable... He loves you too much just to allow you to feel comfortable in a path that leads to your destruction. You know I care, and I'm praying for you. That does not require my corresponding with you. But if He leads, I will. I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with that.
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Post by Cletus on Mar 15, 2019 23:04:30 GMT -5
i think the best i can tell you Naomi is right now your focus needs to be on God, and healing from all this. Sometimes when we go thru life... life changing events happen and God pours out His love on us and from our own perspective we think we are ok, and over it. but we really are not. healing from wounds such as the one you have take time. and here is the kicker... God knows a great deal more than i do, and God gives good gifts. not no spider or scorpion or serpents... Good gifts. He isnt going to give us something that will harm us. lets just say God was cool with you getting remarried, this is hypothetical and I am not judging you... your new relationship would fail due to the state of your heart is currently in. you are not healed. time has a way of giving us new and better perspectives. when we are angry or hurting emotionally we make bad choices. in the moment we think they are good choices. they make sense. but that is the perspective we have at that time... once time passes we find out, you know what... maybe that wasnt such a grand idea. and then, we have made a mess of our life even more. God dont always intervene when we mess up. He can make it better, but we learn along the way not to do that... ever never ever again... its hot, dont touch that! what you speak on is a very big deal. life changing. while you are like this please do not make any serious life changing decisions. and pour your heart into prayer before you choose something that will change your life.
Seriously Naomi, as a sister in The LORD, i tell you just take time to focus on God. Let God heal you... and in time He will lead you where He wants you. In time he will reveal things to you. The Book says to whom much is given much is expected. God gives us something and then He tests us. He tests our faithfulness to Him. He has poured out some love on you... He has shown you things about yourself.. has he not? Do you think He has no more to give you? its very important to KNOW that God is leading us in our life. If we go outside the shadow of His wing the enemy will be there just as quick as he got kicked out of heaven. it is us who mess up our lives when we do not honor God.
I encourage you to just have God in your life right now. dont look for no man. dont even think about it as much as possible. You dont have to have it all figured out, or tomorrow figured out... Mat 6:34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
You said yourself you have value... and God knows you better than you know you. right now just get yourself better.
God Speed.
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Post by 4hizglory37 on Mar 15, 2019 23:37:57 GMT -5
Dear sister Naomi, I hope that you know that we all love and care for you. I hope that you would heed the advice of us here because we are speaking truth in love.
Seek the Lord first and get healed in your mind, body, and spirit.... then wait as the Lord leads. But you definitely need time for healing and restoration from our loving Father.
You are dearly loved sister! We are here to help build up and exhort and point always to Jesus for each other. May you see all our hearts in our words of love and concern for you.
blessings!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2019 6:02:23 GMT -5
Ask the Lord why my posts make you uncomfortable... He loves you too much just to allow you to feel comfortable in a path that leads to your destruction. You know I care, and I'm praying for you. That does not require my corresponding with you. But if He leads, I will. I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with that. The Holy Spirit will check me if need so. I feel disrespected by you. You give me no credit. You don't know my situation, or how hard I fought for my marriage. You don't know how hard it's been just been just waiting on the Lord as a single woman while my husband harrangues me at every opportunity as a crazy whored. Just because I want a new husband, doesn't make me a bad person. It just means I'm a human. No thought policing is necessary. The Lord of Creation can handle it. And no, I am not praying that God restores something that stole three years from my life. So stay out of it and I'll follow the Lord and maybe HE will tell me to do that cause right now I'm just worried about ME. Abby-Joy I will ask you one more time. For the sake of love, please ignore my posts because they are not beneficial. We simply do not agree and that's okay.
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Mar 16, 2019 6:53:15 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2019 6:53:15 GMT -5
Ask the Lord why my posts make you uncomfortable... He loves you too much just to allow you to feel comfortable in a path that leads to your destruction. You know I care, and I'm praying for you. That does not require my corresponding with you. But if He leads, I will. I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with that. I am not convinced that concern is the only reason you post. 1st of all you would have private messaged these concerns of yours to spare me public embarrassment. 2nd, It does anger me, as would you, that I posted from raw emotion, and you use it as an opportunity to make a public sermon that exalts your own righteousness. 3rd, We will see what my dear husband does with his time a way. A wolf shows his fangs eventually ---ask me how I know. 4th, if you really had love in your heart, you would respect my boundaries by ignoring my posts like I asked you.
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Post by 2fw8212a on Mar 16, 2019 7:02:31 GMT -5
You don't know how hard it's been just been just waiting on the Lord as a single woman while my husband harrangues me at every opportunity as a crazy whored. I can imagine how hard it can be. I also faced a similar situation like yours.
Being alone while you do not wish to be is hard, I know the feeling.
And I also tried to do the same as you are planning to, trying to find someone at every corner.
This is a sign of desperation, and the best we can do is to stop and to focus on the Lord.
After many failed attempts of finding someone I realized: I have to stop and focus on the Lord.
And only when I did it I started understanding many, many things I was not paying attention to.
Just as a woman would not solve my problems, a new man is not going to solve yours.
Our joy does not come from things we have in life, it comes from the Lord alone.
We have all we need in Him, we have to submit ourselves to God otherwise you will find yourself lost.
Only when I decided to put the Lord in first place, really... Then things started to change in my life.
"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." - Matthew 6:33
And I realized one thing: It was good to wait for the Lord, otherwise I would have done many mistakes and make my life unnecessarily harder.
Blessings!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2019 8:38:04 GMT -5
You don't know how hard it's been just been just waiting on the Lord as a single woman while my husband harrangues me at every opportunity as a crazy whored. I can imagine how hard it can be. I also faced a similar situation like yours.
Being alone while you do not wish to be is hard, I know the feeling.
And I also tried to do the same as you are planning to, trying to find someone at every corner.
This is a sign of desperation, and the best we can do is to stop and to focus on the Lord.
After many failed attempts of finding someone I realized: I have to stop and focus on the Lord.
And only when I did it I started understanding many, many things I was not paying attention to.
Just as a woman would not solve my problems, a new man is not going to solve yours.
Our joy does not come from things we have in life, it comes from the Lord alone.
We have all we need in Him, we have to submit ourselves to God otherwise you will find yourself lost.
Only when I decided to put the Lord in first place, really... Then things started to change in my life.
"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." - Matthew 6:33
And I realized one thing: It was good to wait for the Lord, otherwise I would have done many mistakes and make my life unnecessarily harder.
Blessings!Again, How do you know I am not waiting on the Lord? What makes you think I'm desperate? That is insulting. I am out here enjoying my life. If I seem desperate it must be because for three years I could not enjoy my life and worship God in PEACE.
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Post by PG4Him on Mar 16, 2019 8:44:28 GMT -5
Nothing has changed from three weeks ago. I’m just saying.
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Post by John on Mar 16, 2019 9:53:21 GMT -5
Ask the Lord why my posts make you uncomfortable... He loves you too much just to allow you to feel comfortable in a path that leads to your destruction. You know I care, and I'm praying for you. That does not require my corresponding with you. But if He leads, I will. I'm sorry you're having a difficult time with that. The Holy Spirit will check me if need so. I feel disrespected by you. You give me no credit. You don't know my situation, or how hard I fought for my marriage. You don't know how hard it's been just been just waiting on the Lord as a single woman while my husband harrangues me at every opportunity as a crazy whored. Just because I want a new husband, doesn't make me a bad person. It just means I'm a human. No thought policing is necessary. The Lord of Creation can handle it. And no, I am not praying that God restores something that stole three years from my life. So stay out of it and I'll follow the Lord and maybe HE will tell me to do that cause right now I'm just worried about ME. Abby-Joy I will ask you one more time. For the sake of love, please ignore my posts because they are not beneficial. We simply do not agree and that's okay. I read what you posted and what Abby-Joy said. Abby-Joy said nothing wrong. She is trying to help. Everyone here is telling you basically the same thing, that based on what we know about your situation, you do not have Biblical grounds for divorce and to re-marry. If you post something telling all of us that you were in this awful marriage, and plan to find someone else to replace your husband, once you put that information in a post, everyone has a right to respond, including Abby-Joy, even if you ask her not to. That is not just because of you and your feelings, but because of others that read what you say. We are not going to be a place where sin and rebellion against God's Word is justified. That seems to be what you are looking to do.
Abby-Joy is not posting things because she is exalting her own righteousness. I have known Abby-Joy for a long time, and she is not like that. She says what she does out of concern. This is not just about you. When you post something in the forums, it is about what others see as well. Out of concern for them, we must stand for Biblical truth and guidelines, and will stand for Biblical truth and guidelines. I was going to remove this thread, but I feel like it is important that you and others understand how things work here at Narrow Way. In our Statement of Faith, it states that if the Bible says it is right, it is right. If the Bible says it is wrong, it is wrong. That is simple and to the point. The Bible gives us Biblical grounds for divorce and re-marriage, and it is the Bible we shall follow. Nobody has disrespected you. Everyone has been very nice, and as ministers of the Lord, God's position shall be our position. Emotional appeals and things like that will not sway us.
There is one thing I want to say regarding a comment you made. I understand you are just human, and that you feel what you feel. On the inside, you are bitter towards your husband, and you don't want to return to him, and you want a new and better husband. Yes, your being human is responsible for that. I do not condemn you for personal struggles. Nobody does, but as a Christian, you need to fight to follow scripture, not feelings. That means you need to admit you have a sin problem on the inside, you need to confess it to God, and you need to let him put you back on the potter's wheel and fix things. If you post here, Abby-Joy is free to respond, and so is everyone else. Since she is giving sound advise, I encourage her to respond.
This thread is closed. Threads that promote rebellion against God's Word are subject to being immediately removed.
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Post by frienduff on Mar 16, 2019 12:21:26 GMT -5
But if what I speak is true... then you will hear the same thing from someone else.
"...By the mouth of two or three witnesses every word shall be established." - 2 Corinthians 13:1
"My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights." - Proverbs 3:11-12
"For we can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth." - 2 Corinthians 13:8 You are right letters . You are . I am worried big time for naominash . You are right my friend . Flood the place with JESUS words .
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Post by frienduff on Mar 16, 2019 12:23:46 GMT -5
Nothing has changed from three weeks ago. I’m just saying. That is because we should have stayed with the first pattern of correction . LESSON LEARNED . I have long been worried and had no peace in my soul about this whole thing .
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Post by John on Mar 16, 2019 16:53:23 GMT -5
Nothing has changed from three weeks ago. I’m just saying. That is because we should have stayed with the first pattern of correction . LESSON LEARNED . I have long been worried and had no peace in my soul about this whole thing .
I have no regrets for showing mercy to someone. The Lord has shown me a great deal of mercy, and I will go out of my way to help someone if I think there is a chance they may get right. I have no regrets about that, but those who are shown mercy can either learn from their mistakes or repeat them. Sadly, they have been repeated in this thread.
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Post by frienduff on Mar 16, 2019 22:24:59 GMT -5
That is because we should have stayed with the first pattern of correction . LESSON LEARNED . I have long been worried and had no peace in my soul about this whole thing .
I have no regrets for showing mercy to someone. The Lord has shown me a great deal of mercy, and I will go out of my way to help someone if I think there is a chance they may get right. I have no regrets about that, but those who are shown mercy can either learn from their mistakes or repeat them. Sadly, they have been repeated in this thread.
You did try butero. You did . Nothing wrong with that . But now we must be very diligent to do all to put forth all effort . Chastisment does not kill, in fact it can often lead to repentance . Godly sorrow .
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