Sometimes, a wife can create a beneficial atmosphere

Let's say you have a grievance against your husband.

You're practicing Ephesians 5. You took advice from 1 Peter 3:1. Now the man is wanting to hear your thoughts and feelings.

It's tempting to vent all the emotions at once. If you're at this point, make sure you're in control. 

If you prepare a lot of food or pick it up from the store, clean the space you share, and look very cute--- it doesn't hurt anything when it's time to communicate your negative feelings.

Sometimes your actions go a long way to how receptive your spouse is to you addressing a complaint.

The idea is to mostly be calm and happy so that your displeasure actually means something .

But it's also good to be direct and honest about your needs. Sometimes in the every day stress of life, things fall through the cracks. It's okay to speak up. 

Don't do what I used to do--- go seek advice from some opinionated unmarried person. They won't help you. It's an amateur move.

Because they don't know what they're talking about.