Social problems

I don't think it's anything you have to change. Some people are naturally introverted and tend to be more private and others are more extraverted and gregarious. Everyone is different. God made you with the unique personality that you have as He wanted you to be. Provided your natural tendencies by disposition don't lead you to sin somehow (some people have a tendency to be short-tempered, for example, which is not Christ-like behavior, or to be impatient, or to be cynical or critical, or passive- aggressive, or to say the first thing that comes into their mind---things like that), and it's not preventing you from living for the Lord in the way you know He desires you to, I don't see any reason why you should fight to overcome your God-given personality. It's not a sin to be introverted or socially awkward, any more than it is to be tall or short or myopic.

I personally am the sort of person who prefers to have a few close relationships rather than lots of superficial ones. I'm not a small-talker, and I don't enjoy being around people just for the sake of being around people. I'm too serious and introspective by nature, and too much of the Lord's mind about things to enjoy chit-chat about things that I don't really consider to be very important from the Lord's point of view. And as there aren't many people who are interested in the things that I am interested in---spiritual things primarily---I don't talk to many people. I'm polite and kind, and a very compassionate person by nature, but not really sociable, and not a "touchy-feely" person, like some naturally are (which is fine if that's their personality). But that's not something I've ever felt guilty about or had any conviction from Jesus that I need to change. 

Just sharing that to show you that everyone is different, and there is no single kind of cookie-cutter personality that God wants all Christians to have---just His character and mind.

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Thank you very much!

Brother, not knowing you in person, but only from what you have written.....if this is something that troubles you, I can only suggest praying about it to the Lord if and ask Him how HE sees it, whether the Lord sees it as being a problem or not a problem. And if so, how does He see the problem, the root cause of it. (For me the Lord speaks and answers usually through the scriptures, though He may choose to speak in other ways to others.) He may answer quickly, or it might be a long time in His wisdom before He begins to answer. Whether you see or hear anything right away or not, just know and trust that the Lord IS working everything in your life together for your good, and He may begin to work on a problem in unseen ways unbeknownst to you. There are times when He even allow us in His wisdom to be afflicted with something for quite a long while, because out of affliction....the fruit of patience is born.

When we come to faith in Christ and receive a deposit of the spirit, we may be delivered of some bondages, but not necessarily all. The Lord promised the children of Israel that He would drive out their enemies from before them little by little, AFTER they had crossed over.....so we often find we have battles to fight as we go along, in taking more ground for Him in our heart and life. The important thing is to be faithful in all that we know, obeying and following the Lord day by day and He WILL lead us to go from glory to glory, from victory to victory, in whatever further areas we may need. I have found in my life that some problems of mine the Lord healed miraculously, and other problems just got left behind gradually as I kept walking on with the Lord. So I would say on the one hand do not be troubled, because His grace is sufficient, and on the other hand whenever you are troubled to bring it to the Lord and cast it on Him for He cares for you. Bless you brother, I hope some of that might be helpful.

sometimes its good to look at things from a different perspective. being an introvert, you cherish things more, things are more special inwardly, you tend to take ideas/issues/circumstances/comments to heart and you do not need external stimulus to receive satisfaction...its quite the opposite, is it not? You prefer genuine heartfelt and true things rather than bling-bling. how is this a problem? its a gift, especially for a christian. When you think there is a deficiency, its time to stop and count your blessings.

I would suggest to you to pray and ask God to show you how you should greet people and converse with people you dont know to well if it bothers you that much. but God knows your heart. God loves you and accepts you as you are. what i would say is do unto others as you would have others do unto you. how do you want to be greeted? is that a word... greeted? anyway, thats how you greet folks.

I am not big on jaw-jacking either. I actually dont greet people at all unless they greet me. well i guess if our eyes lock, and its a close quarters i do or if i can see The Spirit on them. and i am quiet around people until i trust them or at least know enough about them on how to respond to them.

if you ever had a traumatic experience/time in life it may be a contributing factor as you said something about when you are alone you dont talk audibly. people with ptsd tend to script past or future conversations or even fantasy conversations. I know you didnt say that specifically, just throwing that out there. and if it did happen you dont have to tell anyone about it if you dont want to.