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Post by frienduff on Jul 14, 2018 19:53:58 GMT -5
HERE is the ONE THING one should look for in a potential spouse . Does he or she LOVE THE LORD . cause nothing else matters . You can meet the worst cook , YET if she loves the LORD , that is a happy union , better than if she was perfect in all she did , YET loved not the LORD . IT wont never work , LEST ONE LOVES the LORD . And if a couple LOVES THE LORD , it will work . For the focus WOULD not be ON SELF , but on the other . Fact . AS JESUS LOVED THE CHURCH . When any relation focuses on self , ITS DOOMED TO DESTRUCTION . BUT IF THE LORD is LOVED above ALL , IT WLL WORK . IT WILL .
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Post by Abby-Joy on Jul 14, 2018 20:07:34 GMT -5
Excellent thread!
I want to tell a story...
There was a certain Christian woman who married a Christian man... they had the same convictions, same desires for children, and how to raise them. They prayed together, laughed together, had great conversations. They had children. Over time, some things (concerning her husband) that were previously hidden came to light... sexual immorality, adultery, anger issues, and some things that were even more serious. She prayed for her husband, encouraged and oftentimes pleaded with her husband to be the head of the home and to stand in his rightful place where he allowed open doors for unsafe people to stand. Because of this, her safety and that of her children were severely compromised. She began to put money aside and eventually left with the children, yet she did not divorce him, as she still cared greatly for her husband and honored her marriage vows before God. They remained in touch and the children were not forbidden to see or be in contact with their father. Her husband even still provided financially, and acknowledged that he was not in the place to protect his family. Divorce was never considered.
Eventually, some very serious circumstances caused them to be back together in one place, and her husband who had previously never tried to purchase a permanent home, now had a desire to provide a real home for his family. This woman saw this as a heartbreak and even cruelty, to be thrust back together with a man who was a danger to his family. But she prayed and cried out to God and resubmitted herself to His leadership, and to her husband. She grew to see her husband in a new light... and a renewed love... although there were still some issues that needed to be healed and dealt with. She knew that God gave her the role of help meet, and committed herself to that role. She would encourage him, love him, and help him grow... as well, she tearfully asked his forgiveness for any pain she had caused him in leaving him 6 years prior (although they both knew that it was needed to live separate for a time). He accepted, and he also made a heartfelt apology to her for his mistakes. The two of them have a new beginning, this time... just the 2 of them. Their children are happy to see their parents growing in their commitment and love. They are working toward a stronger, safer and healthier marriage and home with Jesus Christ at the center.
Is everything suddenly a bed of roses? Absolutely not! Are there areas that need to heal? You better believe it! Are either of them better or more perfect than the other? Nope! They are just 2 broken and flawed humans who made a vow to one another and to God and who took that vow seriously. One should never treat marriage as a convenience and then throw their spouse away just because they annoy them sometimes, or they got fat, or they can no longer work... etc, etc. Marriage is a ministry... to one another. We should never get so wrapped up in ourselves that we can't look at our spouse through God's eyes of love, or offer forgiveness when there is hurt. It is a serious thing.
God is good, and we don't always understand His ways... why do hard or bad things happen? Sometimes it is our own doings... sometimes, God allows things in order to bring us to the place He desires us to be, or maybe for other reasons we do not fully understand. God has a plan and it is for our good and not for evil. We can't always go with the most easy option. But we must trust Him, and know that He works all things for good to those who love Him and are called .... according to HIS purpose!
WE LOVE YOU SISTER .
ITS our own sisters story . THROW those hands up and praise the LORD . \o/ Yes, sir, it is... God bless you!
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Post by 2fw8212a on Jul 14, 2018 20:18:15 GMT -5
\o/ Yes, sir, it is... God bless you! Interesting, I had this impression when I was reading!
God bless you in Jesus' name!
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Post by frienduff on Jul 14, 2018 22:24:28 GMT -5
ONWARD into the trenches my brothers and sisters , we here at worthy will look out for one another , love one another and LOVE GOD above all . No matter what is coming against , WE GOT THE LORD , WE GOT REAL HOPE , And by grace shall abound . You all are loved and let the peoples sound praises to the LORD .
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Post by frienduff on Jul 14, 2018 22:25:56 GMT -5
Okay, i meant narrow way. But we going to keep on exhorting at worthy too. People need to hear truth and praise the LORD may more come to the LORD .
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Post by John on Jul 18, 2018 9:50:47 GMT -5
Thank you for your wonderful testimony Abby. That should encourage anyone going through difficulties in their marriage. I would also hope that everyone will seriously look at the wise counsel from PG4Him (Candance). I couldn't agree more with what she said.
Frienduff, the difference here is we try to look out for and care about all of our members, not just small cliques.
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