Post by 2fw8212a on Oct 29, 2018 10:44:33 GMT -5
It is sad when I see people breaking their marriage vows.
And it is sadder when the reasons are futile such as: disagreement, strife, mercilessness and the like.
I look at this and I think:
Where is love in the people?!
Yes, where is love in the people?!
"...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:7-8
But what we are seeing today is the opposite, even among Christian people; it is not rare to see people divorcing for the most futile reasons.
I believe there is only one reason for remarriage, and I believe it must be after trying everything to avoid it.
And it is in the case of adultery and if the adulterer is unrepentant.
"...whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes
her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery." - Matthew 5:32
Because if the adulterer is sincerely repentant, then why not forgive?!
The only reason not to forgive is because the person was just waiting for a reason to get rid of the spouse.
But the Lord has said:
"Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away." - Matthew 5:42
"And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a
day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him." - Luke 17:4
Obviously, if the person is consistently falling to adultery then it is a case of bondage and they must seek to be free.
"...Most assuredly, I say to you, whoever commits sin is a slave of sin.
And a slave does not abide in the house forever, but a son abides forever.
Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed." - John 8:34-36
"Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him,
If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed.
And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." - John 8:31-32
"For I desire mercy and not sacrifice,
And the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings." - Hosea 6:6
But then you will say to me:
But everybody does that and change spouse during their lives. Then it should be OK.
"...Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you
to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so." - Matthew 19:8
"Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the
way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it." - Matthew 7:13
Divorce is not nice, I sincerely cannot understand why people enjoy divorcing and change spouse so much.
It can bring negative effects to both sides, especially if one of the parts is not in agreement.
Then it opens doors for many spiritual adversaries to work in their lives.
It is a sad mess we are seeing nowadays. People are changing spouses one, two, three, four, even five times.
Again, I ask:
Where is love in the people?!
As far as I know, love does not seek its own, as it is written...
"does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil..." - 1 Corinthians 13:5
The truth is that people are marrying and remarrying without love at all.
We see old people getting rid of their old wives and marrying younger women... Why?!
I invite these people to think about the reasons of why they have done this.
Are your intentions good and pure?! I really doubt it.
"The heart is deceitful above all things,
And desperately wicked; Who can know it?" - Jeremiah 17:9
And then they will start justifying themselves of why they are marrying another and throwing their spouse in the garbage.
They claim they just cannot live without a partner - which in most cases means to fulfill their selfish lusts.
Many people have missed the point of marriage. Are they still saying: Until death separate us?! (or something like this).
"These people draw near to Me with their mouth,
And honor Me with their lips, But their heart is far from Me." - Matthew 15:8
"He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." - 1 John 4:8
Instead they are breaking their vows they have made before God and countless witnesses as if they never said it.
"Better not to vow than to vow and not pay." - Ecclesiastes 5:5
"When you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it;
For He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you have vowed..." - Ecclesiastes 5:4
"That which has gone from your lips you shall keep and perform, for you voluntarily
vowed to the Lord your God what you have promised with your mouth." - Deuteronomy 23:23
"I will pay my vows to the Lord
Now in the presence of all His people..." - Psalm 116:18
"With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." - Matthew 19:26
"He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." - 1 John 4:8
And there are some who say, but I need a partner no matter what, you know, because of this and that - I just need it.
And I tell you that I could have used the same excuses to start practicing a myriad of sins.
People who say they cannot control themselves need to pray, go back to their spouse, or remain alone in the grace of God.
Because there is a way to control yourself, there is a way to remain happy without sex, marriage and the like.
You just need the grace of God.
"Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain,
“The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”?
But He gives more grace. Therefore He says:
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”" - James 4:5-6
Then, your lack of self control is rooted in unbelief.
"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is
faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able..." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
If you could just believe and humble yourself in the presence of the Lord...
Then He would certainly give you more grace for you to remain faithful to Him.
"Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up." - James 4:10
And I say all these things from experience. I have experienced it, and I am sure I am not the only one.
I have passed 27 years of my life alone, completely alone until 25 when I knew the Lord.
"No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him..." - John 6:44
And I am the type of person who always desired a woman and yet I never had one.
I have passed all my life until now only desiring, seeking and failing to find a woman.
"...A man can receive nothing unless it has been given to him from heaven." - John 3:27
But today I am thankful I never was able to achieve nothing with anyone.
And when I say nothing is absolutely nothing, women for me was always like:
Keep distance! Do not touch!
Not that I wanted to keep distance and do not touch (literally). It just did not happen.
If I could be friend or have regular conversation with a woman that would be the achievement of the year.
But what I once thought was something negative was indeed something positive.
And I started understanding only recently - after knowing Jesus.
"And we know that all things work together for good to those
who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." - Romans 8:28
Today I am free, thanks to the Lord, I have plenty of self control and I do not feel alone.
Yes, I still have the desire to marry and these things but I still need a miracle for that to happen.
But I do not need a woman to survive (the opposite of what most may think), it would just be cool if I had the opportunity to find someone and to marry.
And it is something I still need to wait patiently.
"To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven..." - Ecclesiastes 3:1
Then, if you are justifying remarriage and all the mess that it can bring...
I believe you would be at a much better peace if you avoid remarriage.
Seek peace with the Lord. And let Him purify your hearts, by faith.
"and made no distinction between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith." - Acts 15:9
"For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies." - Matthew 15:19
It is better not to marry than to marry without love.
I am against remarriage.
I believe everyone should honor their marriage vows to the end and be merciful to one another.
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." - Ephesians 5:22]
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her..." - Ephesians 5:25
"...and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh." - Mark 10:8
"For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church." - Ephesians 5:29
"Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
Then, before marrying make sure love is there. Otherwise it will fail.
"...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:7-8
Blessings to you in Jesus' name!
And it is sadder when the reasons are futile such as: disagreement, strife, mercilessness and the like.
I look at this and I think:
Where is love in the people?!
Yes, where is love in the people?!
"...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:7-8
But what we are seeing today is the opposite, even among Christian people; it is not rare to see people divorcing for the most futile reasons.
I believe there is only one reason for remarriage, and I believe it must be after trying everything to avoid it.
And it is in the case of adultery and if the adulterer is unrepentant.
"...whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes
her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery." - Matthew 5:32
Because if the adulterer is sincerely repentant, then why not forgive?!
The only reason not to forgive is because the person was just waiting for a reason to get rid of the spouse.
But the Lord has said:
"Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away." - Matthew 5:42
"And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a
day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him." - Luke 17:4
Obviously, if the person is consistently falling to adultery then it is a case of bondage and they must seek to be free.
"...Most assuredly, I say to you, whoever commits sin is a slave of sin.
And a slave does not abide in the house forever, but a son abides forever.
Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed." - John 8:34-36
"Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him,
If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed.
And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." - John 8:31-32
"For I desire mercy and not sacrifice,
And the knowledge of God more than burnt offerings." - Hosea 6:6
But then you will say to me:
But everybody does that and change spouse during their lives. Then it should be OK.
"...Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you
to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so." - Matthew 19:8
"Enter by the narrow gate; for wide is the gate and broad is the
way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go in by it." - Matthew 7:13
Divorce is not nice, I sincerely cannot understand why people enjoy divorcing and change spouse so much.
It can bring negative effects to both sides, especially if one of the parts is not in agreement.
Then it opens doors for many spiritual adversaries to work in their lives.
It is a sad mess we are seeing nowadays. People are changing spouses one, two, three, four, even five times.
Again, I ask:
Where is love in the people?!
As far as I know, love does not seek its own, as it is written...
"does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil..." - 1 Corinthians 13:5
The truth is that people are marrying and remarrying without love at all.
We see old people getting rid of their old wives and marrying younger women... Why?!
I invite these people to think about the reasons of why they have done this.
Are your intentions good and pure?! I really doubt it.
"The heart is deceitful above all things,
And desperately wicked; Who can know it?" - Jeremiah 17:9
And then they will start justifying themselves of why they are marrying another and throwing their spouse in the garbage.
They claim they just cannot live without a partner - which in most cases means to fulfill their selfish lusts.
Many people have missed the point of marriage. Are they still saying: Until death separate us?! (or something like this).
"These people draw near to Me with their mouth,
And honor Me with their lips, But their heart is far from Me." - Matthew 15:8
"He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." - 1 John 4:8
Instead they are breaking their vows they have made before God and countless witnesses as if they never said it.
"Better not to vow than to vow and not pay." - Ecclesiastes 5:5
"When you make a vow to God, do not delay to pay it;
For He has no pleasure in fools. Pay what you have vowed..." - Ecclesiastes 5:4
"That which has gone from your lips you shall keep and perform, for you voluntarily
vowed to the Lord your God what you have promised with your mouth." - Deuteronomy 23:23
"I will pay my vows to the Lord
Now in the presence of all His people..." - Psalm 116:18
"With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." - Matthew 19:26
"He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." - 1 John 4:8
And there are some who say, but I need a partner no matter what, you know, because of this and that - I just need it.
And I tell you that I could have used the same excuses to start practicing a myriad of sins.
People who say they cannot control themselves need to pray, go back to their spouse, or remain alone in the grace of God.
Because there is a way to control yourself, there is a way to remain happy without sex, marriage and the like.
You just need the grace of God.
"Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain,
“The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”?
But He gives more grace. Therefore He says:
“God resists the proud,
But gives grace to the humble.”" - James 4:5-6
Then, your lack of self control is rooted in unbelief.
"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is
faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able..." - 1 Corinthians 10:13
If you could just believe and humble yourself in the presence of the Lord...
Then He would certainly give you more grace for you to remain faithful to Him.
"Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up." - James 4:10
And I say all these things from experience. I have experienced it, and I am sure I am not the only one.
I have passed 27 years of my life alone, completely alone until 25 when I knew the Lord.
"No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him..." - John 6:44
And I am the type of person who always desired a woman and yet I never had one.
I have passed all my life until now only desiring, seeking and failing to find a woman.
"...A man can receive nothing unless it has been given to him from heaven." - John 3:27
But today I am thankful I never was able to achieve nothing with anyone.
And when I say nothing is absolutely nothing, women for me was always like:
Keep distance! Do not touch!
Not that I wanted to keep distance and do not touch (literally). It just did not happen.
If I could be friend or have regular conversation with a woman that would be the achievement of the year.
But what I once thought was something negative was indeed something positive.
And I started understanding only recently - after knowing Jesus.
"And we know that all things work together for good to those
who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose." - Romans 8:28
Today I am free, thanks to the Lord, I have plenty of self control and I do not feel alone.
Yes, I still have the desire to marry and these things but I still need a miracle for that to happen.
But I do not need a woman to survive (the opposite of what most may think), it would just be cool if I had the opportunity to find someone and to marry.
And it is something I still need to wait patiently.
"To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven..." - Ecclesiastes 3:1
Then, if you are justifying remarriage and all the mess that it can bring...
I believe you would be at a much better peace if you avoid remarriage.
Seek peace with the Lord. And let Him purify your hearts, by faith.
"and made no distinction between us and them, purifying their hearts by faith." - Acts 15:9
"For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies." - Matthew 15:19
It is better not to marry than to marry without love.
I am against remarriage.
I believe everyone should honor their marriage vows to the end and be merciful to one another.
"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." - Ephesians 5:22]
"Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her..." - Ephesians 5:25
"...and the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh." - Mark 10:8
"For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church." - Ephesians 5:29
"Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law." - Romans 13:10
Then, before marrying make sure love is there. Otherwise it will fail.
"...bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." - 1 Corinthians 13:7-8
Blessings to you in Jesus' name!
Let's read our bibles daily my friends