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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 7:03:12 GMT -5
Sometimes I think about the children I could have had by now and my lost marriage and I'm just sad.
There's no way around it.
Why didn't my husband love me? He said he would?
Why didn't we have children? I thought we wanted that.
I would have done anything, anything for him.
So why did he throw me away when I needed him?
Is there something wrong with me?
How is that supposed to make me feel?
The pain is so deep. How could I ever explain
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Post by Cletus on Mar 15, 2019 7:43:01 GMT -5
I have no words to just make it all better... but i will tell you the truth. In my life i have suffered much loss and done without more than i care to discuss. this is what I have learned:
Sometimes in life we have to just make the best of it. do what we can with what we have. but there is also HOPE. we do not know what tomorrow holds. its easy to look at what we dont have or lost out on in life and become overwhelmed.
we must find strength to carry on and not be drowned by life. one way to do this is to look at the bright side. while the things we have lost or are outside of our reach are very real and can cause us to feel sad... we must remember the glass is not half empty. sometimes we do not want to hear that. sometimes we do not want to count our blessings one by one.
Just think about this Naomi... what would have happened if you did have children with your husband and then this happened? what would have become of them? there is good to be had in all situations... it may not be what we want or how we like it or how we want it to be. but we cant focus on shoulda woulda coulda. it will get you down and steal your joy every time.
God sees all this your going thru. God knows about your hurt. the only remedy that will work is to go to The One who can fix your heart. pour out your heart to Him. give it all to Him. and i would recommend to expect that there may be a factor of time in this. He can help in the now but sometimes our hearts wounds take time to heal... for us to be shown the full picture. things take time. again, not always how we want it... but it is what it is... but even more... its what we make out of it.
Ecc 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: Ecc 3:2 A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; Ecc 3:3 A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; Ecc 3:4 A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; Ecc 3:5 A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; Ecc 3:6 A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; Ecc 3:7 A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; Ecc 3:8 A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
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Post by 2fw8212a on Mar 15, 2019 9:49:04 GMT -5
Sometimes I think about the children I could have had by now and my lost marriage and I'm just sad. There's no way around it. It is never too late to start a new life.
There is a way around it, unless you believe there is no way.
"...According to your faith let it be to you." - Matthew 9:29
I also thought there was no way around my life as well.
I once thought I would never find a woman and marry one day despite having a strong desire for this in my heart.
But when I decided to believe and stopped hearing faithless and negative comments my situation has changed.
"...Did I not say to you that if you would believe you would see the glory of God?" - John 11:40
Today, I am waiting for this day as I have received an answer from God that it would happen in my life.
Though I speak as if it already happened... But it still is pending... And I am waiting.
"Great is my boldness of speech toward you..." - 2 Corinthians 7:4
"And now I have told you before it comes, that when it does come to pass, you may believe." - John 14:29
There is a way around it. What do you want?! Is it good?!
If it is good then the Lord will help you, and He will bring to life what once was dead.
"...If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes." - Mark 9:23
The Lord can renew everything, even your marriage and family. Just believe.
Do not be intimidated by those who say you cannot or that your hope or dream is lost.
You were called to be victorious. You were called out of the dead to have life and glorify God.
"...Behold, I make all things new..." - Revelation 21:5
Then the Lord is waiting, and then what will you say?!
"But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind." - James 1:6
"Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for Me?" - Jeremiah 32:27
"...Bring him to Me." - Mark 9:19
"Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know." - Jeremiah 33:3
Blessings, blessings in Jesus' name!
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Mar 15, 2019 14:00:56 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 14:00:56 GMT -5
I believe someone else besides my current husband is waiting for me.
So let it be.
In Jesus' name
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Post by 2fw8212a on Mar 15, 2019 16:07:12 GMT -5
I believe someone else besides my current husband is waiting for me. Sorry, I do not believe so.
"Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband." - 1 Corinthians 7:10
"...if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband..." - 1 Corinthians 7:11
Your marriage can be fixed.
"...Behold, I make all things new..." - Revelation 21:5
"...If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes." - Mark 9:23
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:14:36 GMT -5
I believe someone else besides my current husband is waiting for me. Sorry, I do not believe so.
"Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband." - 1 Corinthians 7:10
"...if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband..." - 1 Corinthians 7:11
Your marriage can be fixed.
"...Behold, I make all things new..." - Revelation 21:5
"...If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes." - Mark 9:23It is true, my marriage can be fixed. Anything is possible with God. I have faith that the Lord will work it out favorably for all parties involved. Besides whoever would come after my husband will probably be a very short, ugly, not very good-looking GODLY man with chicken legs and buck teeth.
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Mar 15, 2019 16:18:37 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:18:37 GMT -5
I believe someone else besides my current husband is waiting for me. Sorry, I do not believe so.
"Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband." - 1 Corinthians 7:10
"...if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband..." - 1 Corinthians 7:11
Your marriage can be fixed.
"...Behold, I make all things new..." - Revelation 21:5
"...If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes." - Mark 9:23You are not the Lord
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Post by 2fw8212a on Mar 15, 2019 16:27:20 GMT -5
But if what I speak is true... then you will hear the same thing from someone else.
"...By the mouth of two or three witnesses every word shall be established." - 2 Corinthians 13:1
"My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights." - Proverbs 3:11-12
"For we can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth." - 2 Corinthians 13:8
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:30:37 GMT -5
But if what I speak is true... then you will hear the same thing from someone else.
"...By the mouth of two or three witnesses every word shall be established." - 2 Corinthians 13:1
"My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights." - Proverbs 3:11-12
"For we can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth." - 2 Corinthians 13:8
The Lord told me what I know. How do you like that??
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:32:55 GMT -5
But if what I speak is true... then you will hear the same thing from someone else.
"...By the mouth of two or three witnesses every word shall be established." - 2 Corinthians 13:1
"My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor detest His correction; For whom the Lord loves He corrects, Just as a father the son in whom he delights." - Proverbs 3:11-12
"For we can do nothing against the truth, but for the truth." - 2 Corinthians 13:8
The Lord told me what I know. How do you like that?? *Besides, I am not a Son, I'm a daughter. Daughters get away with more.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:36:08 GMT -5
My husband *may* be waiting for me.
But I am not waiting for Him.
I only wait for the Lord.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 16:52:18 GMT -5
I have not heard sign nor word telling me to return to my reprobate husband.
I don't care what anyone says.
Or what they think.
Only the Lord's opinion matters about my heart.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2019 17:17:33 GMT -5
If someone wants to hide behind Scriptures and judge me from the safety of their keyboard, they certainly have that freedom.
At least I don't hide behind false piety. I can be honest.
I like men.
I like me more.
I like Jesus the best.
Whether I seek a new husband or not is not the issue.
Anyone who can't see my value --- it's not really my problem. It's their loss.
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Post by Abby-Joy on Mar 15, 2019 17:24:02 GMT -5
I have not heard sign nor word telling me to return to my reprobate husband. I don't care what anyone says. Or what they think. Only the Lord's opinion matters about my heart. Tabitha3319, you have the Word of God. Don't veer from it, unless you are in to willful sinning... then you have another problem altogether. You know He doesn't make exceptions for rebellion regardless of gender. You sound different from your regular self. What's going on?
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Post by Abby-Joy on Mar 15, 2019 17:30:51 GMT -5
If someone wants to hide behind Scriptures and judge me from the safety of their keyboard, they certainly have that freedom. At least I don't hide behind false piety. I can be honest. I like men. I like me more. I like Jesus the best. Whether I seek a new husband or not is not the issue. Anyone who can't see my value --- it's not really my problem. It's their loss. I wish you would open your eyes and see that it is because we value you and care about you that we are telling you the truth. We all have times when we are disappointed with life and feel we've been shortchanged. It doesn't give license to go outside God's commands to find what we think will make us happy. Happiness and joy are found in God... not an outside source, and not our circumstances. If I looked at my circumstances, I could find plenty to be discouraged about. But I have to choose to look up and into the face of my Lord. It's not about false piety, sis ... it's about relationship ... I would not survive the situation I'm in if I didn't choose to keep looking to Him.
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