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Post by Tabitha3319 on May 8, 2020 4:16:52 GMT -5
When I watched the TV series Friends for the first time, my first impression was that it had a good looking cast of actors.
I think pretty much everyone looks good anyway.
Rachel was supposed to be the most attractive character. Jennifer Aniston is indeed beautiful but for me, the outstanding beauty was Monica.
Was it envy? Honestly no. She just appeared to float past the screen like some lithe glowing pale fairy. She had jet black short hair and pale ivory skin like the princess Snow White. And she all but disappeared when she turned sideways.
I suppose I used to feel inferior when I felt overweight but she is a great example of how one should always appreciate the features God gave them.
She could have tanned that skin and dyed her hair but in my opinion, that would have just made her less attractive compared to the other characters.
I will never look like Monica in skin tone or body frame but I am happy in feeling like I don't have to. Instead of wanting features I don't have, I'd rather play up my strengths like Monica.
Because someone is going to love it, no matter if you're short or fat or skinny or dark or pale.
Even if that someone is just the Lord, that is more than enough.
I believe people should be free to alter their appearance but in my opinion, the true beauty lies in distinctiveness and confidence.
I hate the fact that young women are taught by other women to go through major effort to be attractive to men.
Because many of those practices are harmful and frankly, myths.
First of all, do you have a pulse?
Second, are you female?
Did you answer yes to the first two questions?
Congratulations: you have the ability to attract a man.
Period.
Appearance is important. But not the way we think.
We are conditioned to hate ourselves so that we buy products to "fix" the very features that men love.
Magazines for women are 100 percent myths.
Ask a man.
Makeup? Secondary. Short? Awesome. Tall? Awesome. Thin? Awesome. Fat? It varies.
What's unattractive?
Hating yourself and your body. Not accepting compliments. Comparing yourself to others.
This annoys men. And other women.
The secret is that there is none. Women are awesome. You just have to stop believing lies and walk in the love of Christ.
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Post by 2fw8212a on May 8, 2020 6:23:56 GMT -5
Let us start with one important thing:
“...the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature,
because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees;
for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” - 1 Samuel 16:7
“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel,
with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,
but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” - 1 Timothy 2:9-10
What?! Does it mean women are to walk ugly?
No, I do not mean that.
What I mean is, women should not see worldly women as an example, just as myself do not see worldly men as an example.
If all a woman has of good to offer is beauty then she is not even in my list to begin with.
Why? First, because beauty is just 50% of the story if not less.
I will not lie, beauty indeed attracts men, it is just natural. But it is not everything.
The mistake is to look just to outward beauty. And I know many men is only seeking that, a beautiful woman to partner with them.
To me, men who are only concerned with the outward has no serious plan with the woman.
There are high chances that he will just discard her when her beauty goes away. And it always do, that is the truth.
Speaking as a Christian men, I will never marry a woman just because she is beautiful. It is not wise, nor godly.
There are many more things an ideal wife must have, and the most important is love. Indeed, all she must have will come from love.
A woman who will not support you in the evil times but will just think about leaving you alone is not a woman who loves you.
Yes, I know there are women who just want $tability, if you understand me.
Sometimes life is not stable, and the hard times with finance and other things will come to everyone.
And having a wife who will just leave you just because the $tability disappeared is not a woman a good man is looking for.
The ideal woman, and I mean Christian woman is the one that will love you and treat marriage as a commitment that cannot be broken.
“She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” - Proverbs 31:12
Conclusion:
You could be the best looking woman in the universe.
But if your heart is not reflecting your advertised beauty, all good men will flee you.
A serious, godly man is looking for a serious, godly women.
“Most men will proclaim each his own goodness,
But who can find a faithful man?” - Proverbs 20:6
Choose the kind of man you want to attract today. And walk accordingly.
What I mean is, if you behave like a worldly woman you will attract worldly men and you will find out he is not what you were looking for when it is too late.
But if you behave like a Christian woman you will be able to spot and flee worldly, unfaithful men.
And I do not think a serious, Christian woman wants anything with a worldly man.
If they do, their marriage will be much harder. As we already see happening today.
Blessings!
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Post by John on May 8, 2020 8:33:19 GMT -5
Let us start with one important thing:
“...the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature,
because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees;
for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” - 1 Samuel 16:7
“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel,
with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,
but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” - 1 Timothy 2:9-10
What?! Does it mean women are to walk ugly?
No, I do not mean that.
What I mean is, women should not see worldly women as an example, just as myself do not see worldly men as an example.
If all a woman has of good to offer is beauty then she is not even in my list to begin with.
Why? First, because beauty is just 50% of the story if not less.
I will not lie, beauty indeed attracts men, it is just natural. But it is not everything.
The mistake is to look just to outward beauty. And I know many men is only seeking that, a beautiful woman to partner with them.
To me, men who are only concerned with the outward has no serious plan with the woman.
There are high chances that he will just discard her when her beauty goes away. And it always do, that is the truth.
Speaking as a Christian men, I will never marry a woman just because she is beautiful. It is not wise, nor godly.
There are many more things an ideal wife must have, and the most important is love. Indeed, all she must have will come from love.
A woman who will not support you in the evil times but will just think about leaving you alone is not a woman who loves you.
Yes, I know there are women who just want $tability, if you understand me.
Sometimes life is not stable, and the hard times with finance and other things will come to everyone.
And having a wife who will just leave you just because the $tability disappeared is not a woman a good man is looking for.
The ideal woman, and I mean Christian woman is the one that will love you and treat marriage as a commitment that cannot be broken.
“She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” - Proverbs 31:12
Conclusion:
You could be the best looking woman in the universe.
But if your heart is not reflecting your advertised beauty, all good men will flee you.
A serious, godly man is looking for a serious, godly women.
“Most men will proclaim each his own goodness,
But who can find a faithful man?” - Proverbs 20:6
Choose the kind of man you want to attract today. And walk accordingly.
What I mean is, if you behave like a worldly woman you will attract worldly men and you will find out he is not what you were looking for when it is too late.
But if you behave like a Christian woman you will be able to spot and flee worldly, unfaithful men.
And I do not think a serious, Christian woman wants anything with a worldly man.
If they do, their marriage will be much harder. As we already see happening today.
Blessings! 2fw8212a , that was a wonderful post! I could not have articulated things better. The only other thing I might add is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are men that would care about weight and other outward things. They exist, like there are many that would not. Men are all different. Some are annoyed by the things Tabitha3319 mentioned, while others are not. I have not seen Friends in a long time, but I know the characters. Most men would say Jennifer Anniston was the most attractive woman on the show. There are men that would prefer Monika and some Phoebe. I could make a case for all 3. One for beauty, one for personality and one for fashion. Different looks do attract different people.
Back to what Letters said, his comments were right on the money.
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Post by Tabitha3319 on May 8, 2020 11:50:12 GMT -5
Let us start with one important thing:
“...the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature,
because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees;
for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” - 1 Samuel 16:7
“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel,
with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,
but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” - 1 Timothy 2:9-10
What?! Does it mean women are to walk ugly?
No, I do not mean that.
What I mean is, women should not see worldly women as an example, just as myself do not see worldly men as an example.
If all a woman has of good to offer is beauty then she is not even in my list to begin with.
Why? First, because beauty is just 50% of the story if not less.
I will not lie, beauty indeed attracts men, it is just natural. But it is not everything.
The mistake is to look just to outward beauty. And I know many men is only seeking that, a beautiful woman to partner with them.
To me, men who are only concerned with the outward has no serious plan with the woman.
There are high chances that he will just discard her when her beauty goes away. And it always do, that is the truth.
Speaking as a Christian men, I will never marry a woman just because she is beautiful. It is not wise, nor godly.
There are many more things an ideal wife must have, and the most important is love. Indeed, all she must have will come from love.
A woman who will not support you in the evil times but will just think about leaving you alone is not a woman who loves you.
Yes, I know there are women who just want $tability, if you understand me.
Sometimes life is not stable, and the hard times with finance and other things will come to everyone.
And having a wife who will just leave you just because the $tability disappeared is not a woman a good man is looking for.
The ideal woman, and I mean Christian woman is the one that will love you and treat marriage as a commitment that cannot be broken.
“She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” - Proverbs 31:12
Conclusion:
You could be the best looking woman in the universe.
But if your heart is not reflecting your advertised beauty, all good men will flee you.
A serious, godly man is looking for a serious, godly women.
“Most men will proclaim each his own goodness,
But who can find a faithful man?” - Proverbs 20:6
Choose the kind of man you want to attract today. And walk accordingly.
What I mean is, if you behave like a worldly woman you will attract worldly men and you will find out he is not what you were looking for when it is too late.
But if you behave like a Christian woman you will be able to spot and flee worldly, unfaithful men.
And I do not think a serious, Christian woman wants anything with a worldly man.
If they do, their marriage will be much harder. As we already see happening today.
Blessings! Beauty can't be the only thing going for you. There is always someone who will beat you. However, young women here are perishing because they think it's all about the outside and being thin like actresses. We don't want to copy worldly women, of course. But baby steps. Sometimes young girls see me and thats the only biblical example they've ever seen. I try to model, most importantly humility. That means good works rather than just good looks. Being female and getting praised for looks is just a bonus. But many many many starving skeletal sickly women die for the world's ever changing standards. Godly men ought not to be shallow. But I don't think it's evil to have a preference. As long as character comes first. On the men's side, I know women quickly grow ugly if they have a shrew-like ugly spirit. It's literally called a cancer to a man's bones in Proverbs.
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Post by Tabitha3319 on May 8, 2020 14:33:50 GMT -5
Let us start with one important thing:
“...the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature,
because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees;
for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”” - 1 Samuel 16:7
“in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel,
with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing,
but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” - 1 Timothy 2:9-10
What?! Does it mean women are to walk ugly?
No, I do not mean that.
What I mean is, women should not see worldly women as an example, just as myself do not see worldly men as an example.
If all a woman has of good to offer is beauty then she is not even in my list to begin with.
Why? First, because beauty is just 50% of the story if not less.
I will not lie, beauty indeed attracts men, it is just natural. But it is not everything.
The mistake is to look just to outward beauty. And I know many men is only seeking that, a beautiful woman to partner with them.
To me, men who are only concerned with the outward has no serious plan with the woman.
There are high chances that he will just discard her when her beauty goes away. And it always do, that is the truth.
Speaking as a Christian men, I will never marry a woman just because she is beautiful. It is not wise, nor godly.
There are many more things an ideal wife must have, and the most important is love. Indeed, all she must have will come from love.
A woman who will not support you in the evil times but will just think about leaving you alone is not a woman who loves you.
Yes, I know there are women who just want $tability, if you understand me.
Sometimes life is not stable, and the hard times with finance and other things will come to everyone.
And having a wife who will just leave you just because the $tability disappeared is not a woman a good man is looking for.
The ideal woman, and I mean Christian woman is the one that will love you and treat marriage as a commitment that cannot be broken.
“She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.” - Proverbs 31:12
Conclusion:
You could be the best looking woman in the universe.
But if your heart is not reflecting your advertised beauty, all good men will flee you.
A serious, godly man is looking for a serious, godly women.
“Most men will proclaim each his own goodness,
But who can find a faithful man?” - Proverbs 20:6
Choose the kind of man you want to attract today. And walk accordingly.
What I mean is, if you behave like a worldly woman you will attract worldly men and you will find out he is not what you were looking for when it is too late.
But if you behave like a Christian woman you will be able to spot and flee worldly, unfaithful men.
And I do not think a serious, Christian woman wants anything with a worldly man.
If they do, their marriage will be much harder. As we already see happening today.
Blessings! 2fw8212a , that was a wonderful post! I could not have articulated things better. The only other thing I might add is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there are men that would care about weight and other outward things. They exist, like there are many that would not. Men are all different. Some are annoyed by the things Tabitha3319 mentioned, while others are not. I have not seen Friends in a long time, but I know the characters. Most men would say Jennifer Anniston was the most attractive woman on the show. There are men that would prefer Monika and some Phoebe. I could make a case for all 3. One for beauty, one for personality and one for fashion. Different looks do attract different people.
Back to what Letters said, his comments were right on the money.
You gentlemen are very Holy. It's not like that out in the "stix". It's rough for young girls with no Godly example in sight. I read my Bible and I still struggled.
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Post by frienduff on May 8, 2020 15:47:39 GMT -5
FORWARD .........................MARCH . ITS BATTLE TIME .
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Post by Cletus on May 8, 2020 23:38:59 GMT -5
When I watched the TV series Friends for the first time, my first impression was that it had a good looking cast of actors. I think pretty much everyone looks good anyway. Rachel was supposed to be the most attractive character. Jennifer Aniston is indeed beautiful but for me, the outstanding beauty was Monica. Was it envy? Honestly no. She just appeared to float past the screen like some lithe glowing pale fairy. She had jet black short hair and pale ivory skin like the princess Snow White. And she all but disappeared when she turned sideways. I suppose I used to feel inferior when I felt overweight but she is a great example of how one should always appreciate the features God gave them. She could have tanned that skin and dyed her hair but in my opinion, that would have just made her less attractive compared to the other characters. I will never look like Monica in skin tone or body frame but I am happy in feeling like I don't have to. Instead of wanting features I don't have, I'd rather play up my strengths like Monica. Because someone is going to love it, no matter if you're short or fat or skinny or dark or pale. Even if that someone is just the Lord, that is more than enough. I believe people should be free to alter their appearance but in my opinion, the true beauty lies in distinctiveness and confidence. I hate the fact that young women are taught by other women to go through major effort to be attractive to men. Because many of those practices are harmful and frankly, myths. First of all, do you have a pulse? Second, are you female? Did you answer yes to the first two questions? Congratulations: you have the ability to attract a man. Period. Appearance is important. But not the way we think. We are conditioned to hate ourselves so that we buy products to "fix" the very features that men love. Magazines for women are 100 percent myths. Ask a man. Makeup? Secondary. Short? Awesome. Tall? Awesome. Thin? Awesome. Fat? It varies. What's unattractive? Hating yourself and your body. Not accepting compliments. Comparing yourself to others. This annoys men. And other women. The secret is that there is none. Women are awesome. You just have to stop believing lies and walk in the love of Christ. 2 things.
1st. look at artwork of women when men lived in castles. none of the paintings of women were skinny. a woman with meat on her bones was considered what was beautiful back then. its todays culture that tells women to be skinny. magazines. models. tv. back in the day a skinny woman was not sought after to bear children. today children are not esteemed as they once were.
2nd. and here it is... what makes a woman beautiful is The Holy Spirit radiating out of a woman. thru the skin. thru the eyes. thru their speech. thru everything. even the hair. look at a skid row woman. she is an empty shell. look at "an attractive prostitute"... she may be desirable in a lusty way... but look close at her eyes. she is dirty inside. men that cant see more than skin deep do not notice this. in fact most men do not even know deep in their heart they desire what i speak on... they are to preoccupied with the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life. and so in our culture we have many single moms with children by multiple men. or boys.
there is a beauty in a woman that glows with The Holy Spirit that can not be achieved by make up, or hair styles, or clothes or fine jewelry or fitness, or diet. those things may help... but it is no substitute.
my sweetness has brown eyes... and they glow. they shine. brighter than the light shining on them. i can never get her to look at me long enough. and oh how i do try.
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